To love oneself can seem difficult but in Reality it is the most simple thing that the human being can do.
A child loves himself, he puts his needs before anything else, he does not “calculate” when it is the right moment to eat or sleep, he does not reason: it is instinctive.
This means loving yourself, listening to yourself, adhering to your own needs is part of human nature.
We are conditioned and permeated by the duty, education and conditioning that we put into ourselves.
There are however, individuals that do not absorb this conditioning, and all through their Lives continue to put themselves first listening to their own needs.
Often they are considered egoists, but they are simply people who do not burden others, are masters of their own lives, and their priorities are their own needs.
Let us reflect on this: those who put themselves in second, third or fourth place, who privileges the needs of others instead of their own, are often those who then expects the same behavior from others.
So I don’t put myself first, but expect to first for the others, because I have sacrificed, I have gone without…………
Let’s go back and say that loving oneself without society’s conditioning is very simple.
When we go back to the child within us, when we rediscover the Realness of Life, everything becomes very easy, everything flows within us, and to put oneself in first place does not mean that you are an egoist, and don’t understand other people’s needs, but you simply know that first you have to feel good yourself, and then you can help others to feel good too.
I will not do anything for you to then ask for something back, or reproach you, but I will give you something that flows from me, because I am already full of Love, and what I offer you is something extra, for this reason, I will never ask you to compensate me, or sacrifice yourself for me………….I have given myself all that I need, what is over I give to you.
This is not an easy concept if we are aware of all the conditioning we are faced with, so it is natural that we refer again to the child.
The child never feels that he is egoistic, when he thinks of himself first, he is just aware that he lives HERE and NOW, and that is his only need.
Trying to adhere to ourselves needs an effort, and it is the only one asked of us, not to be influenced by other people or have them as a model for us.
The moment we adhere to ourselves, we feel a PROFOUND need to do or not do something, we must not look at ourselves as others look at us, we must not be subservient to other people’s opinions of us.
Other people can make us change our ideas, clip our wings, modify our plans, but serenely we do not adhere to this as it does not feel right for us.
If we renounce we fail ourselves, because we have lost an opportunity to have an experience, we have deprived ourselves of a joy, we have taken away time for ourselves…and automatically we expect the same from others.
We must avoid defining all this as EGOISM, because it is very different.
EGOISM IS A PERSON WHO SHUTS HIMSELF OFF AND IS NOT OPEN TO OTHER PEOPLE.
Who puts himself first is wise.
Let us remember, that we must be aware when we put ourselves first, conscious that we cannot give to others what we do not have.
If I do not Love myself, I cannot give Love to others, it would be a false Love that I offer, and I would always ask for the bill.
I would give something and expect it to be given back.
To Love oneself is the most gratifying thing that the human being can do, because I repeat again, it is that most natural thing he can do.